Better than saying anything like this, which actually draws attention to our differences, is to just not discriminate. And I cannot think of a single context in which attempting to declare your personal nondiscriminatory views convinces others that you do not discriminate. Next, people simply don't believe other people's claims of colorblindness. First, there are no green or purple people in our world. Where to start? There are a couple of issues embedded in this type of statement. I don't care what color you are-black, white, green, purple.While generally meaning no harm, use of these names can grate on the nerves of the target-and raise the eyebrows of anyone within earshot. Cute names are for loved ones, not co-workers, employees, clients, or partners. Nothing against Tim McGraw, but (luckily) we don't work in a country music song.
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Here’s a great TED Talk from Melissa Marshall on how to communicate complex material. Putting yourself down and insulting your audience (even subtly) are both undesirable outcomes. A colleague has this great picture of Einstein hanging in his office captioned with the quote, "If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough." Responding to a direct question with "It's complicated" sends two unintentional signals-first, that you don't know the answer well and second, that you don't think the person asking has the capacity to understand complex material. Telling two groups different things (especially when on the basis of what you think they want to hear) doesn't end well. If you said you're on board, you have to stick by that agreement until conditions change and you've had a chance to discuss it again internally with your team. If your team believes it has reached consensus, only to find out later that you're speaking out against the decision to an external audience, you risk losing the confidence of your team. Once your internal team reaches a decision, you get on board or stand by your disagreement. Although there are exceptions, there is a time and place for discussion and debate.
We agreed to circles, but I really think squares would be best.But to announce a lack of awareness is like broadcasting the message loud and clear that your skills have passed their expiration date. It's fine to opt out of some of them after you've taken the time to understand their purpose and potential and have decided that they're not the right outlets for your market or message. That said, you don't have to be up to speed on all the latest communication tools and outlets. I've only heard Baby Boomers say this-it's an intentional misuse of social media terms as a way to be cute in front of their peers. Saying upfront that you're not good with names conveys that you're not that interested in a long-term connection. If you've encountered someone good at it, it means that person's practicing a couple of memory tricks, and wow, isn't it effective? People feel special when you remember their names. Everyone has the same challenge remembering names when being introduced to a group. To give themselves a pass? To apologize in advance for a future name screwup? I don't know why people say this, but it is akin in my mind to sitting down with your accountant and hearing her say, "Sorry, I'm not good with numbers." Wait, what? If you're in business, then you're in the business of connecting with people, and that means remembering their names-or at least trying. When being introduced to a group, some people say this.
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